"Why you're not on the front": a military psychologist about answers to difficult questions (video)

20 months after the start of a full -scale invasion of Russia into Ukraine, many servicemen during a meeting with men who have not gone to fight, the question arises: "Why are you not on the front?" The military psychologist, captain of the Armed Forces of Ukraine, Andriy Kozinchuk on the YouTube channel Focus, told about how to explain this to the serviceman, how to find an understanding in the eyes of a veteran and how to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings.

"First, we need to realize why veterans ask this question. Not because we, the military, do not like civilians, and not because we believe that the military is good and civilians are bad. No. We end, comrades die, They get wounded. Here I was released from the hospital to spend with you. But the point is that I am not fighting now because I have a wound. And this question is not that someone is bad but that We are scared. That there is no one to fight, " - said Andrey Kozinchuk.

In response to the question of the journalist Focus Maxim Dobrovolsky, how to explain properly to a serviceman or veteran, why you are still not fighting, Kozinchuk said that first of all, this question should be answered. "To answer the serviceman to this question, why are you here, not there, you need to first answer this question yourself. Why don't you fight? Not as it is written in your document that I have a reservation, or here I work here .

In his opinion, there are many men who doubt whether they should stay in the rear, whether to go to the army. According to Kozinchuk, he would not want all men to go to the front, because someone should work in the rear. "Well, firstly, it is not normal, because someone needs to really work. Plants, factories, police, medicine, information in particular. Secondly, it would be great if only they were motivated," Kozinchuk said.

The military psychologist believes that it is not necessary to speak of power, the right to deferral, etc. It is better to answer honestly and only for yourself. "If you, for example, say a serviceman" I'm not going because I'm afraid ", well, scary to fight. Or" I'm not going, because I am not sure of my abilities "or" I have a very cool work, I am everything. Life has sought ". Give an honest answer and you will see that you will respect you.

Believe me, you should be very bold to say that you are afraid. Well, the main thing is not to shake the sich [not to lie - ed. ] something else, because it's awful. That's all. It doesn't matter what you say a veteran, it is important that you will tell yourself, "Andrey Kozinchuk emphasized. We will remind, according to the MoH forecast, 15 million Ukrainians will need the help of a psychologist after the war.

The Director of the Department of the Ministry of Health of Ukraine reported that WHO, together with its department, prepared about 10,000 specialists in providing primary psychological assistance. Ukrainians can also seek support from a family doctor. Earlier, Focus wrote why the authorities were talking about a long war in Ukraine.