What to do if you are afraid to give a child to school through war - the advice of a psychologist

Of course, the form will determine the level of security in the country, but it is difficult to predict it now. This is what does not depend on us. If the administration decides to carry out offline training, it will be necessary to decide whether to lead the child to school. And then many parents begin to be afraid. How to overcome your fear, and whether it is worth doing, - says a practitioner in the big city on ICTV, Julia Zoriy.

- Fear is an emotion that arises in response to a real or possible threat to a person. It is an instinct of survival, a protection mechanism that we have as a basic setting. We cannot cross fear, just don't be afraid, - says Julia. - That is why real work with this emotion begins when we accept it and recognize the right to be in our lives. This is not something that interferes with us, but what is part of life.

Why is such awareness important? Because without adopting the very fact of fear, it will not be able to balance. It is to balance, not to overcome, that is, to put something in contrast. Working with fear in this situation means to do what is in our power, and what can be affected. After accepting, it will be possible to balance his desire. It looks like this: "My desire is stronger than the fear that is and what I recognize.

" - If you want the child to go to this school or kindergarten, to study, socialize, you need to do what depends on you - to find out, for example, whether there is a bomb shelter in the school, and how it is equipped, - Yulia explains. - Do teachers know how to act in the event of sirens, understand whether you have a permanent connection with your child or teacher, whether you have a plan, how to quickly evacuate a student from school in case of danger or just be near and help.

-If despite the desire to teach your child online, the above option does not suit you and does not reassure you, you can consider online school,-advises the psychologist. - The times of coronavirus have taught both children and parents to do at home, so today this prospect is no longer frightened. And if you are calmer, if the schoolboy is nearby, and in the event of a threat you know how to quickly escape, this option is a good alternative.

Of course, parents can argue about the quality and effectiveness of such training and that it is difficult for children to adjust to this format, because it should be controlled and controlled. But if we are talking about safety now, we are looking for an option that would suit and reduce parents' alarm, these disputes are inappropriate. If you are abroad and return to Ukraine until you plan for safety, then you can try to arrange a child to a local school or agree to online teaching.

Or engage with the child on his own under the school curriculum. In addition, wherever you are, there are now a large number of educational platforms and television lessons for children of all ages. So you can mix different types of training. This is difficult because no one cancels the factor of your employment and the inability to devote enough time to learning the child, but let's choose and do what you can.

When you make a formulation type I will not give fear to be the only factor that will influence my life and life of loved ones, because my desire is to have a child learning and gaining knowledge no less important than fear for it, it is easier to make a decision Look for options for reducing anxiety and balanced by fear.